How To Blend A Family When Your Kids Are Teenagers

Is there a way to have peace in the home with teenagers still bitter about their parents divorcing? How about if the custodial parent has remarried or considering remarrying and not to the other biological parent? Some would say HELL NO and in some cases I would still say that but that would be in homes that have not given the kids time to heal or homes that have not received professional counseling to resolve the issues within that scream for attention heard or should be heard by the kids behaviors. Often times kids act out or rebel but there are to many times that kids become introvert, quiet, withdrawn, and sometimes depressed which is all to often taken as a sign of the kids being ok with the changes that are taking place in their home and in their life when in fact those kids are the ones in far worse need for help. Time DOES NOT heal all wounds so if you are thinking that turning a blind eye or banking on time healing their heart STOP before your heart is the only one broken from missing your kid(s) when they have commited suicide, ran away and never looking back or runaways never having the choice to go home because they have encountered their most unfortunate demise by some lunatic seeking out a kid looking for love in all the wrong places. It happens thousands of times A YEAR so please never say never about your children or child, never rely on hope or a miracle but rely on yourself putting your kids needs before your own especially their happiness and health before yours. NO you won't be alone forever not even if your kid is the one that takes what seems like forever and a day to let go of resentment. It will take time, individual counseling and family counseling but they will get to a point where they want to see you happy and also to where they actually look forward to having another "parent" in the home again.
  PLEASE remember what your child has endured before hurrying into a marriage and blending a family though because if you are not certain that your second, third or even fourth marriage will be one that lasts then DO NOT make that kind of commitment because divorce may get easier for you but they never get easier for children, in fact they make the probablity of your kid getting into a lifelong lasting marriage drastically less likely to occur for them as adults. If you have any doubt at all then wait for the kids to go off to college or off to their own ADULT life. Parenting doesn't end at 18 but kids tendencies to want to follow in your footsteps voluntary or involuntarily does.

Single Mom trying to raise a MAN

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Single Mom trying to raise a MAN

Single Moms trying to raise a man http://feelinlikeamilliontoo.blogspot.com/2015/06/single-moms-trying-to-raise-man.html

Single Moms trying to raise a man

I had my son when I was 21 years old and already a mom to a 6 year old little girl. Yes, I was 15 years old when I was raped and conceived my daughter and within months of getting her into school full time, ALL DAY, the day I had been waiting for for 6 long years only so I could finally go back for my high school diploma and to my horror I was starting all over. Oh' my God, Why, What did I ever do so bad that I should end up a loser teenage dropout raising 2 kids that statistically diden't have a much brighter future ahead of them when considering their only parent & role models "circumstances". Well once I got through cursing my gynecologist for prescribing me a faulty birth control and cursing My Maker Upstairs for damning me to a life of what I thought would consist of trailer parks, numerous beer bellied husbands, and an obituary that read "She died quietly at home with her 200 stray cats that she had been hoarding for the last 50 years of her chain smoking, coffee drinking, depends wearing, miserable "life".
After having had about 2 years of blood curdling dreaming of a life of regrets and unanswered wishes that I could have made my future and the excuse for my kids to have the same pity party instead of a promising future for my not so planned but my biggest fans (kids) I decided that if there is only one lesson that an uneducated single teen mom could teach her kids it was going to be life lessons that I could always have pride in myself for leading by example by living to teach them to fight for what they want and believe, to never quit just because the odds are stacked against them or because they have to eat a lil humble pie but because you are only as good as your word, and because it doesn't matter how insignifigant all of their material possesions may seem to be especially compared to someone elses because if you earned them by working hard and staying honest others will see you and everything surrounding you as truly  simply because you worked for them and because no one can ever take anything you, and most importantly is that hard work does eventually pay off- some times it just pays off the electric bill for the month but that little bit of light you give to yourself will guild your way against the darkness hiding hurdles that can knock you down and stay in your way.
While striving to instill morals and values in 2 of the most amazing, productive, giving, caring & loving human beings in the world  that will spend their lifetime touching others lives so they to acheive all their accomplishments that is more than any one person or parent could have ever hoped to have had a hand in creating. I realized as I wrote my feelings for all to read that my kids aren't all take, it was them who created me teaching me to always be the best person that I can be.
When life gives you crap make fertilizer, when rain gives you mud make clay and when God gives you challenges in the form of children, love them, hug them, and they will shine always brightening your day!